Everything you could have or ever want can be yours just for the asking....do everything with love in your heart.....! I read this several times a day...it helps me to remember that I was concieved in love and at some point in the very distant future I want to die the same way......
I agree that life is not a drag, we have ups and downs, joys and sorrows...... and somehow through all that we are able to laugh, enjoy living, and love far more than we give ourselves credit for. I have heard several people say that life is meant to be lived and you don't want to slide out gently and easily, but kicking and screaming about what a ride it was......I'm all for the latter....LOL!
Thank you CG, but, I live in Alberta, BC is next door.....they'll be disappointed.....LOL!
Quoting Lisaprendergast
No question... Arizona has soul and the ability to look back and decide not to be changed by past faiings. I get you A.. don't let the chance kill the hope for all you might be. Yea!!! Life really is more fun than a drag. Lisa
Quoting Lisaprendergast
No question... Arizona has soul and the ability to look back and decide not to be changed by past faiings. I get you A.. don't let the chance kill the hope for all you might be. Yea!!! Life really is more fun than a drag. Lisa
Everything you could have or ever want can be yours just for the asking....do everything with love in your heart.....! I read this several times a day...it helps me to remember that I was concieved in love and at some point in the very distant future I want to die the same way......
I agree that life is not a drag, we have ups and downs, joys and sorrows...... and somehow through all that we are able to laugh, enjoy living, and love far more than we give ourselves credit for. I have heard several people say that life is meant to be lived and you don't want to slide out gently and easily, but kicking and screaming about what a ride it was......I'm all for the latter....LOL!
Thank you CG, but, I live in Alberta, BC is next door.....they'll be disappointed.....LOL!
"The best way to predict the future....Is to create it."
GOOGLE "it was infatuation I know". There are some good articles on `the subject.
Quoting Lisaprendergast
Ok Bill, Again I am going to ask for translation... sorry. no doubt there is a difference between lust and love. How the heck do you know that it is lust when all the words spoken, all the desires expressed, are what we have all been taught to associate with true love?? From Romeo and Julliette to The Princess Bride... One kiss is all it took. No one can tell me any of the lovers of those stories didn't feel consumed by lust, passion. They bought it and fought for it. A bump in the road meant jump. Not to get layed, on the contrary, but for forever love. Yep, they saw it and decided, against all odds, it was the real meaning to their exestence. So doesn't it always start out with a smidge of infatuation? Has for me!! Everyone is worthy of being loved and loving right back. I hope wanting something is always not the kiss of death. I hope it doesn't mean we are all barking up trees when there isn't a tree in sight. I guess lust without honesty, purpose without grace, is great for some people, but for most it is an empty and usually destructive endevoure where there is always gonna damage. So, I hope everyone gets what they want and I hope what they want is good for them and their lives. Lust is a flash in the pan, infatuation usually ends in a kick in the behind, love is just cool. Again i will say, I will never regret feeling it. Best Lisa
Quoting Lisaprendergast
Ok Bill, Again I am going to ask for translation... sorry. no doubt there is a difference between lust and love. How the heck do you know that it is lust when all the words spoken, all the desires expressed, are what we have all been taught to associate with true love?? From Romeo and Julliette to The Princess Bride... One kiss is all it took. No one can tell me any of the lovers of those stories didn't feel consumed by lust, passion. They bought it and fought for it. A bump in the road meant jump. Not to get layed, on the contrary, but for forever love. Yep, they saw it and decided, against all odds, it was the real meaning to their exestence. So doesn't it always start out with a smidge of infatuation? Has for me!! Everyone is worthy of being loved and loving right back. I hope wanting something is always not the kiss of death. I hope it doesn't mean we are all barking up trees when there isn't a tree in sight. I guess lust without honesty, purpose without grace, is great for some people, but for most it is an empty and usually destructive endevoure where there is always gonna damage. So, I hope everyone gets what they want and I hope what they want is good for them and their lives. Lust is a flash in the pan, infatuation usually ends in a kick in the behind, love is just cool. Again i will say, I will never regret feeling it. Best Lisa
GOOGLE "it was infatuation I know". There are some good articles on `the subject.
Once again, you show that beauty of soul. It's not a zero sum game. even after we give all the love we have.....we always have more for one more person. And of those from whom we receive it, we have to give, to feel deserving of the getting.
Somebody in BC is going to be a lucky guy !!!!!!!
Quoting Arizona53
I wonder.....on your death when you look back over your life.....would you regret giving away all your love to many people....loving many times even if it failed time and time again..... or keeping it all to yourself and never giving it away.....
An easy decision in retrospect at that time, but, at the opportune moment....what do you choose......?
Quoting Arizona53
I wonder.....on your death when you look back over your life.....would you regret giving away all your love to many people....loving many times even if it failed time and time again..... or keeping it all to yourself and never giving it away.....
An easy decision in retrospect at that time, but, at the opportune moment....what do you choose......?
AZ,
Once again, you show that beauty of soul. It's not a zero sum game. even after we give all the love we have.....we always have more for one more person. And of those from whom we receive it, we have to give, to feel deserving of the getting.
Good blog. Some of you sound as if you are not sure whether you are experiencing LOVE, INFATUATION or LUST. There is a very fine line between the three. I hope you all get what you want. Notice I said want you want rather than what you deserve...
Good blog. Some of you sound as if you are not sure whether you are experiencing LOVE, INFATUATION or LUST. There is a very fine line between the three. I hope you all get what you want. Notice I said want you want rather than what you deserve...
@ nice guy, as usual, I get and appreciate your comments. @ Lisa, et al...There IS something to be said for a slow, cautious, "deem him/her worthy", natural approach to love. Of course, not every interest will be worth of that kind of energy. And not every fantastic, sexy person you meet will even prove to be a possible interest.
Could a cautious approach kill dynamo passion? Not in my mind...if it's there for me, and also there for him, we will both be drawn to each other deeply, on many levels, and protecting one's heart can never cover scent of pheromones. Flip-side - can going commando kill potential true love? Theoretically, again, no...even if we forget to give each other cave-space, the right man for me will be able to set his boundaries and respect mine.
It's called communication...without it, I may as well live my solitary life out on a mountaintop. I know I sound idealistic here, but haven't we all learned something by now about the power of thinking, hoping, dreaming, and intention?
Quoting niceguylooking
Eva & Lisa, there is no doubt in my mind their are a few people men and women who will take the chance on Love again,,maybe they will work it more slowly this time around maybe not,, maybe they are willing to jump in and get right to work,, once they find the person they deem worthy.
However, I think the vast majority go so slow and with such great caution they stunt the growth of the possibility of long lasting forever type of love. They have been hurt in the past and never want to feel that hurt again,, as a result they run, build walls etc.. and it either ruins it or it never grows to its full potiental. IMHO.
Quoting niceguylooking
Eva & Lisa, there is no doubt in my mind their are a few people men and women who will take the chance on Love again,,maybe they will work it more slowly this time around maybe not,, maybe they are willing to jump in and get right to work,, once they find the person they deem worthy.
However, I think the vast majority go so slow and with such great caution they stunt the growth of the possibility of long lasting forever type of love. They have been hurt in the past and never want to feel that hurt again,, as a result they run, build walls etc.. and it either ruins it or it never grows to its full potiental. IMHO.
@ nice guy, as usual, I get and appreciate your comments. @ Lisa, et al...There IS something to be said for a slow, cautious, "deem him/her worthy", natural approach to love. Of course, not every interest will be worth of that kind of energy. And not every fantastic, sexy person you meet will even prove to be a possible interest.
Could a cautious approach kill dynamo passion? Not in my mind...if it's there for me, and also there for him, we will both be drawn to each other deeply, on many levels, and protecting one's heart can never cover scent of pheromones. Flip-side - can going commando kill potential true love? Theoretically, again, no...even if we forget to give each other cave-space, the right man for me will be able to set his boundaries and respect mine.
It's called communication...without it, I may as well live my solitary life out on a mountaintop. I know I sound idealistic here, but haven't we all learned something by now about the power of thinking, hoping, dreaming, and intention?
Lisa, I can only speak from this man's position of thought. I've noticed in many meaningful relationships there tends to be a natural flow, nothing is pressured, nothing is to much trouble, you think of each other, etc.. it's a smooth and natural transition from the first meeting, to dating, to taking your profile down on MM, without even discussing it. Thats a meaningful flow, its natural you can feel it without a spoken word.
The relationship you speak of does not have a flow to it, it's hot and heavy right from the start (which could be just lust) and burns out just as quick as it started. When a man, stops calling, stops sending flowers, stops walking up behind you, wrapping his arms around you kissing your neck and saying, "I love you" the fire is going out ! or he's getting to comfortable in the relationship which means the same thing,, the fires going out. I understand a man now and then wanting to retreat to his man cave,, just as you would want to go shopping or lunch with the girls ( no sterotype intended) we all at time need room to do our own thing,, but when it becomes to much,, again the fires going out ! LOL In my opinion there's 2 ways to handle it,, sit in his man cave, ask what the hell is going on,,, or kick him to the curb ! LOL why you might ask, because its not what you want in a relationship ! ;)
Quoting Lisaprendergast
OK... you are an evolved man. It is so hard ro dive in and find out he decided to empty the pool. How many times have you heard guys lamenting the stalker who doesn't get that they need their space. Translation... I changed my mind... I thought this was it, but.... I want to spend sometime in my man cave? Forgetting the midnight phone calls, love notes, roses that started at a hundred miles an hour and then come to a screeching halt.?? I've broke more than one horse in my life, i don't want to employ that logic when it comes to affaires of the heart. Going slowly is a lesson many women have learned after hours of wondering where all that crazy and intense attention evaporated to. It seems like a girls need to obsess and talk often helps their male involvements the abiltiy to move on without such confusion. Guys don't often explain their panic or reasons for diving back into their caves. Don't get me wrong, I am not assuming to lump all guys into that mold. No, there are the ones, like it sounds you are, that are comfortable with fast and true love.Great at communication. Happy to treat an individual with the respect they would expect for themselves. Hurt not lest you be hurt yourself. I am just trying... failing I think... to explain the hard and fast rules associated with crowding a man. When on the hunt he can't wait to get you on the phone. When he thinks you are sitting around on hold for that next great moment... he can put lots of time between those loving moments. Oh, they come back, usually with hands in their pockets, acting like the days, week, months or years have never passed. Furious when the door slams shut. I guess that is where I figure the situation gets sticky, I always ask my guy friends who have found themselves in that situation..."What would you tell your sister to do?" Keep talking evolved... I am learning Trying to anyway Best Lisa
g g, interested in your point of view.
Quoting Lisaprendergast
OK... you are an evolved man. It is so hard ro dive in and find out he decided to empty the pool. How many times have you heard guys lamenting the stalker who doesn't get that they need their space. Translation... I changed my mind... I thought this was it, but.... I want to spend sometime in my man cave? Forgetting the midnight phone calls, love notes, roses that started at a hundred miles an hour and then come to a screeching halt.?? I've broke more than one horse in my life, i don't want to employ that logic when it comes to affaires of the heart. Going slowly is a lesson many women have learned after hours of wondering where all that crazy and intense attention evaporated to. It seems like a girls need to obsess and talk often helps their male involvements the abiltiy to move on without such confusion. Guys don't often explain their panic or reasons for diving back into their caves. Don't get me wrong, I am not assuming to lump all guys into that mold. No, there are the ones, like it sounds you are, that are comfortable with fast and true love.Great at communication. Happy to treat an individual with the respect they would expect for themselves. Hurt not lest you be hurt yourself. I am just trying... failing I think... to explain the hard and fast rules associated with crowding a man. When on the hunt he can't wait to get you on the phone. When he thinks you are sitting around on hold for that next great moment... he can put lots of time between those loving moments. Oh, they come back, usually with hands in their pockets, acting like the days, week, months or years have never passed. Furious when the door slams shut. I guess that is where I figure the situation gets sticky, I always ask my guy friends who have found themselves in that situation..."What would you tell your sister to do?" Keep talking evolved... I am learning Trying to anyway Best Lisa
g g, interested in your point of view.
Lisa, I can only speak from this man's position of thought. I've noticed in many meaningful relationships there tends to be a natural flow, nothing is pressured, nothing is to much trouble, you think of each other, etc.. it's a smooth and natural transition from the first meeting, to dating, to taking your profile down on MM, without even discussing it. Thats a meaningful flow, its natural you can feel it without a spoken word.
The relationship you speak of does not have a flow to it, it's hot and heavy right from the start (which could be just lust) and burns out just as quick as it started. When a man, stops calling, stops sending flowers, stops walking up behind you, wrapping his arms around you kissing your neck and saying, "I love you" the fire is going out ! or he's getting to comfortable in the relationship which means the same thing,, the fires going out. I understand a man now and then wanting to retreat to his man cave,, just as you would want to go shopping or lunch with the girls ( no sterotype intended) we all at time need room to do our own thing,, but when it becomes to much,, again the fires going out ! LOL In my opinion there's 2 ways to handle it,, sit in his man cave, ask what the hell is going on,,, or kick him to the curb ! LOL why you might ask, because its not what you want in a relationship ! ;)
I wonder.....on your death when you look back over your life.....would you regret giving away all your love to many people....loving many times even if it failed time and time again..... or keeping it all to yourself and never giving it away.....
An easy decision in retrospect at that time, but, at the opportune moment....what do you choose......?
I wonder.....on your death when you look back over your life.....would you regret giving away all your love to many people....loving many times even if it failed time and time again..... or keeping it all to yourself and never giving it away.....
An easy decision in retrospect at that time, but, at the opportune moment....what do you choose......?
"The best way to predict the future....Is to create it."
A girlfriend and I talked about this the other day. Loving someone completely and entirely, unconditionally and having that feeling last, and be happy. Then there's the flipside, it happened once, and you are not together, so it either ended badly or some other reason has kept you apart and that is why you are here. So, the Love VS Hurt tug of war goes on inside you.
Personally I want it all....I want the whole love story with a completely different ending this time, that starts at the beginning, and every day is like a new beginning.....
A girlfriend and I talked about this the other day. Loving someone completely and entirely, unconditionally and having that feeling last, and be happy. Then there's the flipside, it happened once, and you are not together, so it either ended badly or some other reason has kept you apart and that is why you are here. So, the Love VS Hurt tug of war goes on inside you.
Personally I want it all....I want the whole love story with a completely different ending this time, that starts at the beginning, and every day is like a new beginning.....
"The best way to predict the future....Is to create it."
Hey! I DO!!! Yes, love the love it, miss it, totally will do it again!!! Which among you REALLY want to do the rest of this ENTIRE life without that kind of connection? Risky, yeah. of course. But so much has to do with what you are willing to cut loose of. Seriously...am I crazy? I am my own weakness's biggest contributor.
Eva & Lisa, there is no doubt in my mind their are a few people men and women who will take the chance on Love again,,maybe they will work it more slowly this time around maybe not,, maybe they are willing to jump in and get right to work,, once they find the person they deem worthy.
However, I think the vast majority go so slow and with such great caution they stunt the growth of the possibility of long lasting forever type of love. They have been hurt in the past and never want to feel that hurt again,, as a result they run, build walls etc.. and it either ruins it or it never grows to its full potiental. IMHO.
Quoting GentlyWoman
Hey! I DO!!! Yes, love the love it, miss it, totally will do it again!!! Which among you REALLY want to do the rest of this ENTIRE life without that kind of connection? Risky, yeah. of course. But so much has to do with what you are willing to cut loose of. Seriously...am I crazy? I am my own weakness's biggest contributor.
Eva & Lisa, there is no doubt in my mind their are a few people men and women who will take the chance on Love again,,maybe they will work it more slowly this time around maybe not,, maybe they are willing to jump in and get right to work,, once they find the person they deem worthy.
However, I think the vast majority go so slow and with such great caution they stunt the growth of the possibility of long lasting forever type of love. They have been hurt in the past and never want to feel that hurt again,, as a result they run, build walls etc.. and it either ruins it or it never grows to its full potiental. IMHO.
Your not crazy! I agree (or am I crazy too and it's contagious??)Without risk there is no reward! This is A risk I am willing to take.I want it all!!!There is A song my daughters teacher wrote/sings called" If I fall will you catch me? Relationships are what two people choose to create Some things are worth it.
Quoting GentlyWoman
Hey! I DO!!! Yes, love the love it, miss it, totally will do it again!!! Which among you REALLY want to do the rest of this ENTIRE life without that kind of connection? Risky, yeah. of course. But so much has to do with what you are willing to cut loose of. Seriously...am I crazy? I am my own weakness's biggest contributor.
Quoting GentlyWoman
Hey! I DO!!! Yes, love the love it, miss it, totally will do it again!!! Which among you REALLY want to do the rest of this ENTIRE life without that kind of connection? Risky, yeah. of course. But so much has to do with what you are willing to cut loose of. Seriously...am I crazy? I am my own weakness's biggest contributor.
Your not crazy! I agree (or am I crazy too and it's contagious??)Without risk there is no reward! This is A risk I am willing to take.I want it all!!!There is A song my daughters teacher wrote/sings called" If I fall will you catch me? Relationships are what two people choose to create Some things are worth it.
Hey! I DO!!! Yes, love the love it, miss it, totally will do it again!!! Which among you REALLY want to do the rest of this ENTIRE life without that kind of connection? Risky, yeah. of course. But so much has to do with what you are willing to cut loose of. Seriously...am I crazy? I am my own weakness's biggest contributor.
Quoting niceguylooking
Lisa, I think thats part of the problem with us singles today, (you wrote) " I never want to feel so consumed again" So basically we don't want to take the chance of falling deeply emotionally in love,, as a result,, we don't even find love at all ! We say we do,, but do we REALLY want to take that chance again ? I personally don't think most want to take that chance !
Quoting niceguylooking
Lisa, I think thats part of the problem with us singles today, (you wrote) " I never want to feel so consumed again" So basically we don't want to take the chance of falling deeply emotionally in love,, as a result,, we don't even find love at all ! We say we do,, but do we REALLY want to take that chance again ? I personally don't think most want to take that chance !
Hey! I DO!!! Yes, love the love it, miss it, totally will do it again!!! Which among you REALLY want to do the rest of this ENTIRE life without that kind of connection? Risky, yeah. of course. But so much has to do with what you are willing to cut loose of. Seriously...am I crazy? I am my own weakness's biggest contributor.
Lisa, I think thats part of the problem with us singles today, (you wrote) " I never want to feel so consumed again" So basically we don't want to take the chance of falling deeply emotionally in love,, as a result,, we don't even find love at all ! We say we do,, but do we REALLY want to take that chance again ? I personally don't think most want to take that chance !
Quoting Lisaprendergast
I hope to hell you are wrong. I hope getting my brain around that feeling and accepting it has opened me up to a great and healthy relationship. I think that for most of my life I have been a little more difficult than the average girl. i was always looking for lightening. OK. Now I have been there and done that. Got the program. I have the degree. I have graduated to adult relationship hood. i never want to feel so consumed again. Although, I would certainly leap at the chance to be in love with a touch more sanity. Happy should come with certainty. Of myself as well as him. Smiling at the thought of a grin, a searching hand, a text. Wow. All good. Remembering the hope lost, this girl is grateful. Call me crazy. L
Quoting Lisaprendergast
I hope to hell you are wrong. I hope getting my brain around that feeling and accepting it has opened me up to a great and healthy relationship. I think that for most of my life I have been a little more difficult than the average girl. i was always looking for lightening. OK. Now I have been there and done that. Got the program. I have the degree. I have graduated to adult relationship hood. i never want to feel so consumed again. Although, I would certainly leap at the chance to be in love with a touch more sanity. Happy should come with certainty. Of myself as well as him. Smiling at the thought of a grin, a searching hand, a text. Wow. All good. Remembering the hope lost, this girl is grateful. Call me crazy. L
Lisa, I think thats part of the problem with us singles today, (you wrote) " I never want to feel so consumed again" So basically we don't want to take the chance of falling deeply emotionally in love,, as a result,, we don't even find love at all ! We say we do,, but do we REALLY want to take that chance again ? I personally don't think most want to take that chance !
How cheesball? "Smiling at the thought of a grin" has my vote. You need to take a poll.
Quoting Lisaprendergast
There is no middle ground when you are exposed to that emotion. try, try, try... It will not happen. In my sad love story, we honestly will never be able to fix things. I have m responsabilities. he has his own mess. But you have challenged me here... I am gonna try and write the whole thing into one stupid song. Give me a name Gentle and I will take it from there. Thanx Lisa
Quoting Lisaprendergast
There is no middle ground when you are exposed to that emotion. try, try, try... It will not happen. In my sad love story, we honestly will never be able to fix things. I have m responsabilities. he has his own mess. But you have challenged me here... I am gonna try and write the whole thing into one stupid song. Give me a name Gentle and I will take it from there. Thanx Lisa
How cheesball? "Smiling at the thought of a grin" has my vote. You need to take a poll.
Having been there and done that, I too am hoping that "lightening strikes twice." How about "Call Me Crazy" your words not mine, for the song title.....LOL!
Having been there and done that, I too am hoping that "lightening strikes twice." How about "Call Me Crazy" your words not mine, for the song title.....LOL!
"The best way to predict the future....Is to create it."
Yes, it is a great lesson. And for better or worse, once you've had it....you want it again. And while it is a great and noble quest to search for something you know in your heart CAN define you, it also means you'll never settle for less. Whch can lead to some extensive searching for great periods of time.....perhaps even the rest of your life????
Yes, it is a great lesson. And for better or worse, once you've had it....you want it again. And while it is a great and noble quest to search for something you know in your heart CAN define you, it also means you'll never settle for less. Whch can lead to some extensive searching for great periods of time.....perhaps even the rest of your life????
I know what you mean. I've heard people make all kinds of crazy excuses about why they can't be with their partner, like "Kankles" in the movie, Shallow Hal. Ultimately, if you've ever had love, you know there's only one bottom line...you either love someone or you don't. Not just a little. Completely or not at all. Simple, I think. And really beautiful that, once you know it, you know it, and could probably never get the whole feeling into one stupid song.
I know what you mean. I've heard people make all kinds of crazy excuses about why they can't be with their partner, like "Kankles" in the movie, Shallow Hal. Ultimately, if you've ever had love, you know there's only one bottom line...you either love someone or you don't. Not just a little. Completely or not at all. Simple, I think. And really beautiful that, once you know it, you know it, and could probably never get the whole feeling into one stupid song.
